Dating can get super confusing around this time of year. There’s holiday after holiday, then just as the holiday pixie dust starts to settle — BOOM, Valentine’s Day. The one day specifically dedicated to love. And when you’re single, or in a brand new situationship, it can be hard to navigate this love day. We’ve all seen enough images of roses and candy, romantic getaways and lavish gifts that what else can you really expect? And, expecting all of that when you’re just starting to date someone OR if you haven’t fully made a real commitment, can get a little tricky and potentially leave you super disappointed.

Unfortunately, too many of us are living in this gray area of dating. There’s so much uncertainty and “going with the flow” that when the really special moments come up, you don’t even know how to behave or what to expect. Then, when you really want or need someone to be there, you’re taking a guess at whether or not they’re going to show up. Most of the time, it could be avoided with a simple conversation. It is so important to be upfront and honest about what you want, need and what you expect in any situation you choose to give your time. Simply asking what someone’s plans are for Valentine’s Day goes a long way. How they respond will point your expectations in the right direction. It may not be what you want to hear, but, if needed, can read between the lines to get what you need to hear.

Don’t get me wrong, I love Valentine’s Day. And, of course, some would say it’s just another marketing ploy for companies to add to their bottom line, but that doesn’t stop me from appreciating the acts of love that come as a result of the holiday. As a natural gift giver, I like putting extra thought into finding the perfect thing I know you’ll love. I would say I enjoy giving gifts more than I like receiving them. BUT, before I do any of that, on this particular holiday, I need to know — “Are you my Valentine, or nah?”

So, before you go out buying 100 roses or expecting to receive 100 roses, ask the question. This will save a lot of headache, potential heartbreak OR could lead to the best Valentine’s Day ever. You’re welcome. xo