I’m naturally a pretty introverted person, but there’s no room for that in the life I’ve decided to live. When you make the decision to do something unconventional, it is so important that you are not bound by the confines of your comfort zone. When Shameless Maya held her anniversary event this year, I knew I wanted to go but I was looking for someone to attend with me. After procrastinating and finding out none of my friends were available, the tickets were sold out on the website. I was super bummed out because as soon as I made up my mind to go alone, the opportunity seemed to be taken away from me. Typical..right? So this had me thinking about my comfort zone and the fact that I need to let go of whatever perceived comfort I think I’m privied to while existing in it.
When it was all said and done, I did attend the event. I had a great time, met some great people and made some good connections with no anxiety. Oftentimes, we spend so much time building up what could possibly go wrong that we miss out on all the cool things that could go right. Shortly after leaving the event and having some time to reflect on my experience, I came up with the 5 things that helped me get out of my comfort zone. – Whit
- Just Do It — It’s that simple. When you eliminate the time you typically give yourself to overthink, you will basically talk yourself out of doing whatever it is. Don’t even give yourself time to think about it because all you’re really doing is buying time to make an excuse.
- What’s the best that could happen? — A lot of times people throw around the phrase “what’s the worst that could happen”, which is nothing but negative energy. Although it’s meant to be a sarcastic sort of reverse psychology, most of us really start thinking of all the “worst” things that could happen. Try focusing only on the positive things that could come out of it and you will be amazed at how quickly your anxiety goes away.
- Set a goal — When you’re in the position to try something new or do something for the first time, give yourself a goal to accomplish by the end of it. Once the goal is accomplished, you can be out of there. For instance, let’s say you’re attending an event alone and don’t know anyone there. Set a goal to meet and have conversations with 5 people. You’re free to leave after that, but by that point I’m sure you won’t want to.
- Let your guard down — Be open to conversation by being inviting, asking questions and responding honestly. It’s surprising who you find yourself connecting with. Whether it’s a person you may be connected with through someone or something else, or it could be someone that has the knowledge you need (and vice versa) to get to the next point you’re seeking.
- Write it down — Be sure to document everything you think and felt during the experience. This will be a big help the next time you’re trying to pull yourself out of your comfort zone. At the end of the day, the best things in life don’t come out of your comfort zone. The best things come after hard work, pushing yourself beyond what you imagined and trusting that whatever it is, is not going to kill you.